4 soulmate lies: discover the truth and energize your love life
Most singles want to find a soulmate, but aside from common romantic assumptions about this elusive magical bond, they usually don’t stop to think about the spiritual purpose of soulmates or the true meaning of the term.
Thanks to movies, television, and romance novels, the perception of a soul mate has been distorted beyond its metaphysical definition. There is much suffering that could be avoided with more understanding and a change of point of view.
The following are four of the most common soul mate mistakes and what you can do to avoid them.
1) Assuming you only have one. After removing the fairy tale element, a definite soulmate is simply a soul that you met in a previous incarnation. They could have been a brother, a parent, a friend or an enemy; you can have 100s, or even 1000s of soul mates.
The term soul mate is often used to illustrate a special relationship, one that was created especially for you, or even your “other half.” As attractive as it may sound, unfortunately our findings invalidate this theory. Souls are not paired with just one ideal partner in the spirit world.
But have hope. You have connections that are much more compatible than others, and will meet and enjoy each other when the time is right.
How do you know when you’ve met one of these magical connections? A feeling of knowing the person but not being able to locate where they are from is common. Like instant like or dislike, assuming you’re looking at the person objectively and not subjectively projecting their hopes and dreams onto them.
2) Soulmates are less about romantic bliss and more about destiny, and what is destined may or may not compare favorably to your favorite love story. Each bond has a purpose, such as working on a project together, raising a child, overcoming karma, or simply enjoying each other’s company. You will experience much less stress and angst if you learn to accept each relationship for what it should be rather than just what you expect.
3) Too young. Teens and 20-somethings are more likely to get drunk with the feel-good, romantic soulmate Kool-aid. Once reality hits, it’s often such a stark contrast to what they expected that it’s easy to become cynical about future love life opportunities.
People convince themselves that they are mature enough to be happy with the person for the rest of their lives, starting at a very young age. Unfortunately, this is often not the case.
We have found through our empirical research that the most rewarding spiritual connections often appear later in life, sometimes after you’ve paid your dues, so to speak.
Rather than applaud “high school sweethearts,” parents and mentors would better serve children in this area by helping them recognize that Cinderella stories are just one possibility in the game of love and suggesting that they not try to start one. life. long relationship until later in life.
4) “Together forever.” Most bonuses are not meant to be for life. It would be nice to have a compatible partner by your side throughout your life, but since it doesn’t always work out that way, letting go of expectations is key to satisfaction.
Of course, what would your love life be without a bit of fantasy and magic? It is the spice of love and can lead to a lot of happiness, if you control it and remember to be realistic.
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