A Real-Life Scenario to Eliminate Approach Anxiety – Part One

I would like to tell everyone who comes to this website about a very personal experience that helped me overcome shyness and approach anxiety during my own “shy phase” that occurred a few years ago.

This night that I will describe to you was the turning point for me when it came to meeting the challenge of removing any approach anxiety that still remained with me when it came to approaching. I met my friend at a nightclub in Hawaii around 10:30 p.m. some self validation.

He’s a great guy and he’s fun to hang out with, so I always joke that I know exactly who he’s going to end up with at the end of the night: a decent-looking woman who needs to prove to everyone that she’s still attractive and is holding on to her. . she looks good wearing as much makeup and tight clothes as she can find.

These women he usually ends up with at the end of the night are in their late thirties, but my friend is still in his twenties, so they really love him big time! Anyway, I spent the first hour with him getting a little drunk on beers, Jack Daniels, and coke, and we were accosted by about four Asian girls who were hammering us whether we like it or not.

I found it funny but not as sexual as him. After escalating things with these cute girls, I decided to start making my rounds at the club just because I don’t need a wingman when this club starts up, like it did last night.

THE “CRASH AND BURN” PART OF THE STORY

I saw a hot Asian girl with a girlfriend at the bar and decided I had to tell her how much I loved her outfit of boots and a mini skirt. I approached her with no heavy breathing or nervous behavior on my part and I’m not even sure why as she was still fighting that fear of anxiety on a semi-regular basis at the time.

But not experiencing any approach anxiety at the time didn’t seem to help me with this hot Asian girl. After I said, “I love those boots you have on,” she simply smiled at me and threw her head back wordlessly in response to my compliment.

Did that make the guys at the bar point at me and laugh at me? No. Did her coldness reduce me to a quivering heap of jelly? No. I took that cold response from her as a sign to quickly expel and start finding another HB8 or 9 that would give me a much better answer. As I searched for another girl to approach, I realized how calm I was about that poor response and reflected on why it didn’t affect my game overall.

I have since determined that there were two reasons for my new calm demeanor during that approach:

1. I was no longer attached to the outcome

2. I could study that cold response from the Asian girl and analyze it as a way to up my seduction game as a whole.

Although it might turn out to be a very clinical and therefore less exciting way to start going out on weekends on a regular basis, the new way I examined what went wrong and what went right during my weekend stays It would be a great help. in removing any last residual anxiety about approaching, which was a HUGE relief to me during that hectic first year of my seduction pursuits.

LOOK FOR “PART TWO” OF THIS STORY UNDER “RELATIONSHIPS: DATING”