Getting back together after a breakup: 5 steps to make it happen!

It is understandable that you are in a very fragile state if your boyfriend or girlfriend has just left you. However, you must realize that things are not set in stone when it comes to getting back together after a breakup. In other words, it’s probably not as bad as you imagine, and you actually have a very good chance of getting it right and getting a second chance.

That is, of course, if you are willing to do whatever it takes. And don’t be fooled, it’s not as easy as it sounds. In fact, this is where most people go wrong and ruin their chances forever.

Here are 5 steps to take right now if you ever want the chance to get back with the love of your life:

Be careful what you say to your ex. It can be tempting to tell them exactly what you think of them (especially if you really think you don’t stand a chance), but this can come back and bite you hard. There are certain things that you simply cannot withdraw. Try to control your temper and if you feel like you are about to say something that you might regret, just walk away and live to fight another day.

Limit contact with your ex. There should be a cooling off period after a breakup. If you keep contacting them for answers, you’ll end up pushing them further away, that’s guaranteed. Just remember that nothing you say right now will make things better – in fact, it will have the opposite effect and destroy any chance for reconciliation you have. Although you may be tempted to phone and text them until they give up and agree to meet with you, this is the worst thing you can be doing right now.

Don’t look desperate. If you insist on jumping every time your ex pays attention to you, it may seem like you are needy. They will pick up on this in an instant and you may find that you have absolutely no power left in the relationship. We all want what we cannot have and value what is difficult to obtain. A person in need, in general, does not create the same attraction as someone who stands firm and shows a bit of confidence.

Make sure you have other things in your life. Unless you have other distractions, you will be thinking about your ex 24/7. There is only a limited amount that a person can take, and eventually, they may decide to break up and start calling and texting them if they have nothing else to occupy their time. Start a new hobby, reconnect with friends, travel a bit, whatever it takes.

After a while (a few weeks, at least), you’ll want to try reconnecting with your ex. Don’t wait too long, as you may find that time has a way of erasing the close feelings you shared. There is a fine line between waiting too long and contacting them too soon. Stay calm, don’t seem overly anxious, and avoid bringing up the old relationship or being too personal. Think about how you loved them the first time and become that person again.

Getting back together after a breakup is often simply a matter of changing the way you view the situation, acknowledging the pitfalls, and taking steps to improve your odds. The good news is that it is something that anyone can do if they put their mind to it.